According to statistics, almost half of the actions we take during the day are not conscious. These are habits. They free us from excessive mental stress when doing the simplest things (you don’t think, for example, how to climb the stairs, right? Everything somehow turns out by itself) – and at the same time determine how we live, how we work and what we achieve …
This is why it is very important to have “healthy” and “correct” habits. But which ones? Here they are (continued, beginning here):
III. Habits for Healthy Relationships
45. Respect the opinions of loved ones
The best foundation for a successful relationship is mutual respect. Be honest, don’t gossip and appreciate the best qualities of your loved ones, and everything will be just fine with you.
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46. Say “thank you”
This is very easy to do – and how pleasant the consequences will be! Even the usual “thank you” for the fact that your “significant other” washed all the dishes, will take your relationship to the next level.
47. Speak up
If you really love someone, do not hesitate to tell them about it. Say “I love you” more often – and do it with your heart. Tell your friends and family that you care. Be generous in this regard – and you will be rewarded.
48. Take a walk
Take a loved one or a good friend with you for a walk. You will not only get some fresh air, but also have a good conversation.
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49. Cheer each other up
Humor is a powerful way to connect with just about anyone. Never miss a chance to cheer up your soul mate! Read a funny joke from the Internet, watch a comedy together, and ideally please him / her with humor of your own production.
50. Set goals together
This habit is especially important in romantic relationships in which you act as a team. When you don’t set common goals, you run the risk of sabotaging each other’s endeavors. Connecting in the face of common challenges is a great way to get closer.
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51. Have a new hobby
Nothing kills friendship and love faster than boredom. Do not stand in one place! Find something new (it’s important for both of you to be interested in doing this), challenge each other – and enjoy all the benefits of doing anything together.
52. Do something nice “just like that”
A surprise is doubly pleasant when it is truly unexpected. Moreover, it is not at all necessary to donate cars and apartments. Send your mom a bouquet of flowers, help a friend with a project, buy home some “sweets” that haven’t been there for a long time. Such little things make up a happy married life!
53. Relax together
The desire to spend free time together is the key to a strong relationship. Get in the habit of relaxing together – watching TV, walking, having dinner, and so on.
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54. Take time for yourself too
… But that doesn’t mean you have to be together 24 hours a day. Even bosom friends and couples “do not spill water” need to devote time to their business and interests.
55. Update your social connections regularly
Calling and texting 24 hours 7 days a week is not a good habit (although an exception can be made for romantic relationships). Family and friends do not need to call / text every day. But it is still necessary to “refresh” social connections, that the more often this happens, the better.
56. Do Housework Together
… This way you will avoid frequent situations in which one half of the family is unhappy with the laziness and inactivity of the other. In a 2007 special study, 62% of married couples said doing household chores together was a great way to build a strong family.
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Physical contact affects how you feel about people you care about. By itself, the act of cuddling automatically triggers the production of oxytocin in the body, which, in turn, improves your mood. Scientists say that “for complete happiness” it is enough to hug eight times a day.
58. Tell me what exactly you love this person for
To say “I love you” is very good. But it will be even better if you explain exactly why you are experiencing this feeling. Tell your loved ones, relatives and friends what you value so much in them! As a result, it will be good both for you (since you shared positive emotions) and for the other person (after all, a kind word, as you know, is pleasant to a cat).
59. Pay attention
Our loved ones often lack “real” attention – such that they are carefully listened to, thought about and answered in detail, so that there is “eye to eye” contact. If you love someone or just have sympathy for this person – make him really feel that he is interesting to you.
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60. Understand your partner’s “love language” – and “speak” it!
There are five main ways to let someone know that you love them:
1. Do something for him.
2. Physical touch (sex and touch in general).
3. Pay maximum attention.
4. “Words of approval” – for example, “I love you.”
5. Gifts. Here we are not necessarily talking about the material – such people often look not so much at the price of a gift, as at how much effort and attention is invested in it.
Understand which of these “love languages” your partner speaks – and “communicate” accordingly.
61. Ask: “How was your day?”
This is generally a very good way to start a dialogue with anyone – from mom or dad to a friend. You immediately get a lot of information in order to maintain a dialogue, and at the same time show your interest in this person’s life.
62. Be honest
Honesty is a key element of any relationship. Who needs liars in this life? If you want to live with a person, you must tell him the truth – after all, he wants to trust you.
63. Cheer for Them
We all have difficult days, and having someone to root for you is a real gift from heaven. Motivate your loved ones for deeds, support them in any situation and believe in them.
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64. Put your smartphone aside
Gadgets are more enemies of relationships than their friends. If you are all the time using your smartphone or playing “tanks”, do not count on a long and stable relationship. Ideally, it’s best to agree on the rules – for example, from 8 pm to 10 pm you play, and then watch TV shows together.
65. Be loyal
This seemingly obvious thing is not clear to everyone today. Be on the side of your partner at all times – even when he / she cannot stand up for himself.
66. Be someone you can count on
Your partner, your friends and parents should know that you can be relied on in any situation, be it problems in your personal life and at work, illness, or whatever. Today it is a rarity – so a reliable husband, son, friend and brother is doubly appreciated.
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67. Don’t take it all on yourself
It is wrong when there are two of you, and only one does everything (and the other is just a good person). Of course, this does not mean that absolutely all responsibilities must be divided in half – but you should definitely agree that none of you will pull the “strap” of family or friendship alone. This applies to both household chores and the choice of things like “where to go.”
68. Take time for your loved ones
Steve Covey, author of the world famous bestselling book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, quotes, among other things, in the book:
“The main thing is not to prioritize what is on your schedule, but to schedule for your priorities.”
In other words – if you want a long-term relationship, give it top priority and manage your time accordingly.
69. Love and do not judge
The exception is very serious flaws that are quite capable of ruining your relationship. In all other respects, exercise reasonable patience – you love this person, and there are no ideal people.
70. Goodbye mistakes
And once again – there are no ideal people, and even more so your loved ones are not. When something goes wrong, just put yourself in that person’s shoes. If the mistake does not lead to a fatal status for your relationship, forgive and forget.
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71. Be vulnerable and embrace vulnerability
This is your chance to show your friends and loved one that you are a real, living, ordinary person. In turn, they will be able to be more open with you and begin to trust you more.
72. Start the day together
For married couples, this is important in terms of solidarity. Even if you work on different schedules, you can always find a way to start a new day together – for example, write a note or look at your sleeping spouse.
73. Call them during the day
This is a sign of attention and trust. It is especially important if you have not seen each other in the morning.
74. Make decisions as a team
When the future of your family, friends and partner depends on your decision, it is better to invite them to work together on it. You are together, and therefore must decide together.